Modern Marriages

As most couples these days seemly becoming more modern so has my spouse and I. We have what we would consider to be an open marriage. We like others have special rules. Our main rule being No kissing. You can do what you want with who you want, but there is no kissing. We aren't swingers. Lets not get that confused. Not that being a swinger is a bad thing. To each their own. She is Bi-sexual and I am straight. So she does her thing with other woman and I am giving the opportunity to do the same.

Although we do not consistently act on this openness we have together the option is always there. I suppose that I am an uncontrollable flirt. I can say that I am not your typical male either. I have been told this more often then not. I am considerate, caring in my own way, make regular attempts to be romantic, cook, clean, and do my best to balance a military career, family life with the kids, and alone time with my wife.

I think that marriages these days seem to be something of the past. My wife and I have a very strong marriage and a very healthy sexual relationship. We talk, spend time together, find time to be alone, and hold NO secrets from one another.

Although our openness hasn't been a very long thing I think that it has changed our marriage a bit. Making it stronger then it was before. We have been married over 10 years and just about 2 years ago choose to lead this lifestyle after my wife suggested doing it. Yes that's right SHE suggested it. As most of you would think any guy would jump to this opportunity I did just the opposite. I was hesitant to even consider it. I have been supportive of her bi-sexuality since she told me 2 years after we had been together. But never did I imagine being with someone else other then my wife after we were married except for the occasional invite when she wanted to have another woman join in. Well just last year I gave our new lifestyle a try. She set something up and I went for it after we had discussed everything.

Let me tell you, I screwed it up. With good intentions of course I made the big mistakes. But it was a learning experience we had to explore. So although the first time didn't seem to go as we had planned we talked through it all and gave it another go. The second time not really changing the feelings we worked through it as well.

I couldn't help but feel although with permission that I had cheated. Things are different now. But you always have to get over that first time. So if you have a Modern Marriage I would like to hear about it if you care to share your story about your first time please do so by leaving a comment below.

So until next time, keep your sex drive up and your mind in the gutter.